Are You Misunderstood?
Are you misunderstood? Do you usually have a misunderstanding when communicating with others or in relationships? What makes people feel that other people do not understand them?
Truth be told, every single one of us on earth is misunderstood, more or less. That is because we are all essentially different in our outlooks, tastes, ambitions, ideals, and backgrounds.
Whether you are leading a big group or trying to connect with your family, misunderstanding can ruin everything. Regardless of their cause, misunderstanding will tarnish relationships no matter how much effort you try and keep them going. You want to be able to communicate with others and understand what they are feeling. Good communication usually helps avoid disappointment.
If you want to prevent misunderstanding, avoid making impulsive decisions or responding to situations from your emotional state or your emotional personality. Try to stay in the present, think about the options, and think about your response before acting on impulse.
Another powerful way to combat all forms of miscommunication is to understand that all miscommunication results from the same underlying dynamics. This is called energy. When you know how to manage the power, you have a fantastic arsenal of tools to deal with all manner of frustration, misunderstanding, anger, and negative feelings that crop up throughout our day.
Energy is neither positive nor negative. It is a vibration that is attracted to one person and kept away from another depending on the state of energy of both people at that time.
Understanding this simple but powerful concept will help you diffuse unnecessary negativity through understanding the difference between energy types and how to use them with positive intent.
Avoid The Misunderstanding in Your Relationships
Misunderstanding can be caused by several factors. At the root level, it is usually an issue of how one person perceives another. Suppose you are struggling with how to deal with miscommunication in your relationship. In that case, there are some steps you can take to help stop the problem from continuing.
The first step is to know where the miscommunication is headed. This usually starts with the initial question. How did the misunderstanding begin? Was there an underlying reason why the other person perceived things in a way that caused the miscommunication?
Sometimes miscommunication is about the other person’s worldview, especially if they hold conflicting worldviews. If this is true, it can be challenging to get them to see the actual situation in a different light.
When this happens, the next step is usually to try and communicate calmly while respecting the other person’s worldview. For instance, if the other person was upset about something you said, you would probably want to avoid saying anything that upset them because they may withdraw even more. While respecting their beliefs and opinions, you may need to communicate calmly to not start even more misunderstanding.
Misunderstanding Is Usually A Lack Of Communication
Sometimes misunderstandings are about language use. If you have a hard time translating your beliefs into everyday language, it can cause you many problems. Try rephrasing your statements with more neutral terms, and make sure you always ask questions when you do not understand something.
Suppose you constantly find yourself in the low Context, high Context state. In that case, you should consider practicing how to clarify your thoughts in as many different ways as possible. This is especially important for dealing with miscommunications about money or serious matters.
Miscommunication can be caused by a lack of practical communication tools and a lack of awareness of how these tools work and what they can achieve. For example, if you are trying to make sure that your financial budget is in order, but your accountant does not explain how to interpret the numbers clearly, you may be wasting valuable time learning the difference between positive finance and negative finance result.
If you fail to communicate clearly and efficiently about your expectations and policies, there will often be misunderstandings involved. Using precise, concise communication tools is one way to ensure that the low Context state is not translated into a high Context state and vice versa.
Any relationship must be both clear-cut and healthy. However, when communication cannot occur due to a misunderstanding, there is no recourse but to try and work through the problem.
It is equally important that this doesn’t happen again. Avoiding misunderstandings is one way to keep relationships healthy and strong. And by communicating clearly about expectations, clarifying every situation, and practicing practical communication skills, you will likely reduce the amount of misunderstanding you experience in your life.
The sympathetic, comforting, understanding person is the most needed individual on earth.
If we knew the cares and trials, Knew the efforts all in vain,
And the bitter disappointment, Understood the loss and gain—
Would the grim external roughness?
Seem, I wonder, just the same?
Should we help where now we hinder?
Should we pity where we blame?
Ah, we judge each other harshly,
Knowing not life’s hidden force,
Knowing not the fount of action Is less turbid as its source;
Seeing not amid the evil,
All the golden grain of good,
And we’d love each other better,
If only we understood.
How to Avoid Misunderstandings At Work
To avoid misunderstanding in the workplace, communication needs to be free and flowing. It is equally vital that the misunderstandings that result are handled correctly to avoid escalation and possible employee termination.
To keep the lines of communication open in the workplace, make sure that all of your colleagues understand how and why you expect them to react. In addition, learn how to communicate effectively so that you can avoid misunderstanding altogether. The end result is that you will enjoy a healthy work environment that respects all of its workers.
It is well known that communication takes two forms; verbal and non-verbal communication. Verbal communication is how we say things and the sounds we make, while non-verbal communication is how we look at others, interpret their expressions, and react to them. There are theories about how language and communication actually work, but when it comes to conflict resolution, what really works the best is listening to both sides of the argument before making a decision.
Strategies For Communication In The Workplace
Studies show that when people hurt others, they are more likely to perceive that impact negatively. Because we rely on our interpretation of others, misunderstanding can significantly impact how we communicate.
Research has shown that a negative impact can have severe consequences on both the messages and the communication results. If we want to effectively communicate, we must adopt an approach where everyone’s point of view is considered equally important.
Below are some common forms of misunderstood behaviors that can harm how we communicate…
- Oral misrepresentation: This is where we misdirect the other person’s attention towards us. This can occur in two ways – by directly communicating about something that we are unaware of or indirectly speaking about something that the other person is aware of but chooses not to share. Oral misrepresentation can have a considerable impact on how we respond to conflict. A classic example is expecting someone to understand our speech when we do not. When someone misunderstands us, it can often make it seem that we are not listening and can contribute to tension and conflict. Understanding cultural differences is essential when communicating, but it is also important to remember that our own expectations about how things should be may differ from those of others.
- Rhetorical irony: This occurs when we take one aspect of another person’s discourse and present it as our own. For example, suppose a colleague makes a comment about a topic you are discussing. In that case, you will likely interpret their words in a way that you agree with but interpret them in a way that shows you have not fully considered it yourself. Suppose you engage in this kind of rhetorical exchange at work. In that case, it is often possible to avoid misunderstanding by carefully understanding why they are doing it. However, it is also elementary to become distracted and start repeating someone else’s point of view even when you have carefully read their original comments.
- Cross-cultural communication: This happens when two or more people from different cultures contact each other and build a positive relationship based on respect for each other and a willingness to try new experiences. Unfortunately, communication dynamics between these people can cause misunderstanding between them, especially where they come from different cultural and/or social backgrounds. A classic example is when employees from two different cultures come to work for the same company. This can lead to a lack of understanding of how to deal with conflict between them.